Teen resilience coaching
For the students who struggle with the pressures of life at secondary school and beyond
If you are a parent and feel helpless seeing your son or daughter struggle with academic and social pressures that you have zero influence or control over, one of the best things you can do is seek out a strong role model and mentor for your teenager. Anne Nola has a natural empathy that kids gravitate to and relax around. She’s relatable and relevant. She’s also a highly skilled and credentialled Life Coach. What this means is that she has proven tool-kit and perspective-shifting exercises and practices to help teens get to know themselves better – so they improve the way they approach personal and academic challenges.
How can Life Coaching help your teen?
· Calm the stress around exams and academic success
· Reduce overwhelm about the future and which path to pursue next
· Diffuse the stressful negativity of poorly chosen friends, mismatched teachers or troubled family life
· Overcome the despair of a painful break-up or friendship struggles
· End “compare and despair” social media anxiety
· Push through to the finish line on a big goal – even when life has hit you with some serious sucker punches
· Move forward, one tender step at a time, after a life crisis such as parents divorcing or a death in the family
· Implement positive habits such as healthy eating, time management and exercise.
While the adventure of growing up can be a wonderful and exciting time, young people, as well as adults, can experience difficulties in life.
The teenage years can be a strange and difficult time for everyone involved. During this time, the family dynamic can change dramatically. Teenagers begin to fight for their independence and parents fight to maintain control.
Every young person can respond to difficulty in life differently. Where one child may express their thoughts and feelings, another may act out. A young person going through stress may repress their emotions; their behaviour may start to change as may not feel they have anyone to talk to.
When going through these changes, it is important to let your child know you are there for support. However, they may not feel confident enough to discuss their issues with you. This is where a youth coach can help – they are an impartial source of support who can listen and understand the challenges your child is facing.
As a Youth Resilience Coach and a mother, I really understand teenagers (I have two teenage children of my own, a 16-year-old daughter and a 14-year-old son so I know what you may be going through!). I work with the young person to identify their needs and discuss their concerns and act as the support beside them while they jump the hurdles toward a stable future. While some will need their hand held throughout the journey, others may only need to be pointed in the right direction. I get them to open up and share with me their problems quickly through coaching. I work with young people on their level and tailor each session to their needs, learning type and personality. I get to the heart of their problem with speed and empower them to make some positive life changes. The children see me as a Mentor who provides a neutral and confidential space for them to talk and has some great ideas to make their lives happier.
there are so many benefits to youth
To help them see they can change a situation where they are unhappy
To help them fully understand the situation they are in
To help them see that they are the only person responsible for their own actions
To empower them to make positive changes in the way they act, think and feel
To develop essential life skills that they need to get on in life
An indirect and additional benefit of life coaching children is raising a child’s self-esteem and confidence. When an adolescent sees that they are able to change one area of their life it makes them realise they are capable of making significant changes in other areas.
I also find that having a trustworthy outsider for a teenager to talk to can be very beneficial especially if the problem is family-related.
the way I work with youngsters
Before my first session with an adolescent, I always have a discovery session with the parents and the child or teenager, so I know what issues they would like me to address. With this in mind, in the first session, I always ask the child what they would like to talk about. I feel it is important to address what is on the child’s mind first before going onto the parents' agenda. The ‘parents issue’ is still addressed but later in the coaching process. The young person may say the same issue as the parent and if they do then we start troubleshooting the problem immediately.
In the life coaching sessions, I use worksheets, and discussion to establish the problem and find out what the child would like to happen instead. Together we set a goal and look at ways of achieving it. We evaluate the child’s ideas and they choose the most achievable and realistic option for them to get the result they want. This solution may not necessarily be the preferred route for the parents, but by letting the teen find an answer to their problem they will feel empowered and in control of the situation, which in turn will raise their self-esteem.
My sessions are lively, interactive and supportive. I help the adolescent think creatively. I don’t just sit and listen to what they are saying but I ask questions and get the child to verbalise their thoughts and feelings. I see the whole teenager not just the issue they are coming to see me about and address anything I pick up on through their verbal or non-verbal communication.
Benefits to Parents
As a parent, you probably worry about your teenage child. You may wonder if they are happy and hope they are doing well at school. You take comfort in the idea of them having a nice group of friends to support them through the journey. But what if they don't, what if they are alone?
It can be difficult as a parent, as sometimes despite your worry, teenagers simply do not want to discuss their personal lives. After all, they are trying to break free and grow up, while a part of you wants to hold on. Young people have every right to keep secrets but, as a parent, this can be distressing. If you want your child to receive support, yet believe that you are not the right person to give it to them, one solution can be to hire a youth coach.
Youth Coaches do not aim to stand in as parents, teachers or friends. They are there to offer impartial, trustworthy support without any judgement. A Youth Coach can give a young person the chance to vent freely and confidentially about anything they want. This may include school and family life, friends or anything else that happens to be on their mind.
the coaching setting
I work from my home in North West London so that children feel relaxed in a comfortable family environment. I also do SKYPE coaching if your child is unable to visit me for geographical reasons. SKYPE is a great, flexible way to resolve your child’s issues from the comfort of their own home and it is just as effective.
the duration of the sessions
My face to face and SKYPE sessions are weekly unless you state a preference otherwise. The face-to-face sessions last 60 minutes (except for the Intake session - first session - which lasts one hour and a half for older teens). The sessions are at the young person’s pace and I am able to tackle the main problem the child has in the first session. There is no average when it comes to how long I will see a child however 95% of the children that I see will have 6 sessions in total. Please see my Confidence Booster package
Typically I work with children aged 12 years old to teenagers.
All my sessions are confidential unless a child gives me permission to discuss our conversations with their parents or they have disclosed something to me that I need to pass onto Social Services. Most children are happy for me to talk to their parents between sessions. It not only allows me to make the parent aware of how the child wants to solve the problem but the parent knows what changes they can expect to see. With the parent on my side, they can talk to the child about their emotional and behavioural progress and encourage them to keep going with changing their actions/thoughts/beliefs.
Last but not least, I am DBS checked for your peace of mind!
"Anne’s coaching style is very friendly and comforting. In my last year of A levels, I felt very stressed and anxious about exams and moving forwards in my life afterwards. I had very low self-esteem, motivation and a lack of belief in myself to succeed. Through her sessions, I was able to get a much clearer picture of my strengths and abilities as a person and realise that I have so much potential to achieve things in the future. As a result, it has allowed me to build up confidence in myself and challenge myself while not going out of my comfort zone. Anne has also helped me to develop an optimistic mindset in difficult situations to overcome barriers such as fear and anxiety".
Marcos Duche Ron
"My 11-year-old daughter was struggling with the transition to high school manifesting itself in panic attacks with intense anxiety levels then refusing to go to school altogether!
Although the school and GP had listened and were trying to be helpful and put support measures in place there was somehow a gaping hole in support for 11-13-year-olds in our area. Things seemed to get worst for her with ever-growing anxiety and this is when one of my closest friends saw an advertisement about workshops Anne was running locally - however as 11-13 years seems to be a difficult age range to get support for these workshops were aimed at older teens I thought I would call Anne to see if she offered anything for younger Tweenies. This was one of the most beneficial phone calls ever! Immediately, I warmed to Anne and we agreed to meet for a free consultation. I remember leaving that meeting with a warm glow and thinking everyone needs an "Anne" in their life!
My daughter took on a six-session plan with Anne and immediately we noticed signs of our happy daughter emerging back. We have just completed the six sessions and I can not thank Anne enough for helping our lovely girl find herself and her confidence again. She is so much stronger, happier and today achieved the Head of Year Award out of 180 students along with drama and sports awards every single one of her teachers says she is a shining star and recognised her struggles! She had an outstanding end of year report and to think 6 months ago we had a huge fight to get her into school at all just seems incredible"
"My son was in year 10 when I first took him to meet Anne. He was constantly getting in trouble at school. He was restless and found it hard to stay focused. He was reluctant at first as I’d taken him to other professionals and he felt they weren’t helping him and refused to return to any sessions with them. He continued to go to her and he has really turned a corner in year 11. He’s had an amazing first term at school hasn’t got into trouble. I feel Anne was great with him with her encouragement, praise and making him realise he can do it. He was happy going to chat with Anne which helped. She’s brilliant with people and really enthusiastic and gets the best out in people. She’s warm and compassionate towards people. She doesn’t judge people which is great as for me as a parent I felt embarrassed that my son wasn’t behaving at school. My son really enjoyed her sessions. I would highly recommend going to Anne."
"Anne was really kind and supportive when I first met her. I was initially a bit worried about how the course would go but Anne really helped me and I felt really comfortable talking to her about the challenges of my school life. I found her coaching approach very useful and it really helped me improve my behaviour and control my anger at school. Anne was able to help me work out solutions to solve my problems and she really gave me some great advice on how I can do things differently to change my behaviour. Overall, I really enjoyed the course; Anne has been very helpful as a Coach and I am very grateful!"
Colm, Year 11
"Anne Nola has been an asset to the coaches’ team on the Coaching for Success programme, delivered by Grit in partnership with Ark Elvin Academy. Anne is a pleasure to work with, communicating efficiently and effectively with the Grit team and the school – she is warm, understanding and organised. Anne is committed, driven and clearly passionate about supporting young people and this was very evident when she completed with her students at the celebration day in December 2018. One student of hers showed particular improvement in focus levels and his detention number decreased. I am confident Anne had a part to play in this development and I would not think twice about recruiting Anne again on one of our programmes".
Operations Manager, Grit
"I found the Grit coaching programme really interesting. At first, I was unsure of how it would help me improve my school results and my behaviour in class but when I met my Performance Coach, Anne, things changed. Anne helped me identify my passion in life, basketball, and motivated me to join a team. As a result, I developed myself massively and managed to get back on track with my studies. Anne drew a clever comparison between what is expected of me to succeed at basketball with what is expected of me to succeed at school. I really recommend Anne, she is great!"
Ark Elvin Academy Student Year 10
"I appreciate Anne's help and am really grateful for the amount of time she invested in me over the 6-month-volunteering Grit Programme. Her coaching has helped me manage my anger and become a better person as a result. I feel much more equipped to perform at my GCSEs. Thank you."
Ark Elvin Academy Student Year 11
"We used Anne as a Confidence Coach for our 10-year-old after suffering from ongoing friendship issues at school. The difference in her self-confidence was noticeable to many and was commented upon by teachers, grandparents and others, most of whom had no idea she was having confidence coaching. Thank you, Anne 😊."